Why do we go through hard times?

What’s the purpose?

Is it to teach us a lesson?

Or is it to teach us a lesson that we can pass on and help someone else?

I believe in the latter.

It’s the reason I created this podcast.

Through my own hard experiences, I felt that I had learned some things that have helped me to progress and grow.

What if someone would have shared their experience and growth with me when I was going through some of the hard stuff in my past?

Would it have helped me learn faster and get out of the pain sooner?

We’ll never know for sure, but I’d like to think that it would have.

We are social creatures for a reason.

If we can’t help each other through the hard times, then what’s the point?

There are the times when sharing the details of the stories of our past aren’t what’s helpful.

But taking the lesson that was learned and sharing insights with that could be.

We don’t always need to have a tell all session.

When we’re reaching out to help someone else, then it should be more about what they are needing.

Sometimes biting our tongue and listening with the intention to just understand what they are feeling is all that they really need.

Our basic needs of feeling loveable, capable, that we belong and are safe could be where you start when listening to another person.

***When others are with you do they feel that you love them? 

When someone is sharing a struggle they are having, do they feel that you see them as capable?

When a friend opens up about something that is really hard for them, do they feel like you are right there with them to support and love them without any judgement?

And does your friend feel safe with you, like they have been seen as they truly are and that you accept them exactly as they are?***

These are basic needs we all have.

When they’re not met, we feel disconnected.

Let’s turn these questions in on ourselves.

You know I always like to do that.

The experiences you’ve had in the past have prepared you for what’s coming next in your own life too.

When you are going through something challenging, do you listen to your thoughts and respond with love? 

Do you acknowledge them as thoughts coming from a person who is deserving of love? 

Have you ever thought about it that way?  How do you listen to your own thoughts? 

Do you listen??

When you have learned how to listen to yourself, do you acknowledge yourself as a person who may not have figured out what to do next AND you are capable of figuring it out?

Do you allow yourself time to make a decision without beating yourself up for not knowing exactly what comes next?

When you feel alone, do you remember that you are never really alone?

Do you acknowledge that the person who knows you better than anyone else in the whole world is always there for you, and that person is YOU?

And when you feel anxious or afraid or unsure of yourself do you speak so kindly to yourself that you can feel safe and seen and valued for exactly who you are and where you are in this life?

ALL of this is possible when you have connected with who you really are.

ALL of this is possible when you teach yourself to be your own best friend.

Trying reaching out to others with more compassion and see how that ability grows as you are even more compassionate with yourself.

ALL of the experiences you are having are there for a purpose.

You get to decide if you’ll keep them to yourself.

You get to decide if you use them to lift another.

AND you get to decide if you will learn from them and become even more than you are today.

It’s totally up to you!

If you find yourself not knowing how to start with any of the compassion towards yourself that I have talked about today, I can help you with that!

I’ve been trained to help you!

Not only through what I’ve learned through my experiences but also with the course I’ve been taking on becoming a coach.

This is not just positive thinking.

It’s more than that!!!

I have skills to teach you that can be applied in so many different circumstances that will help you to become who you see yourself becoming.

They will help you to feel hope when you’ve lost hope in yourself.

I can’t wait to teach them to you one-on-one and help you apply them in your individual circumstances. 

If you register with me for a Mini Mentor session before the end of January 2024, you can still get 4 one-on-one sessions with me for $100. 

Go to hunkeedori.com/minimentor and sign up for 15 minutes with me and we can decide how I can best help you and we’ll schedule your 4 one-hour session.

That link is in the show notes or go directly to hunkeedori.com/minimentor. I can’t wait to meet you!

Thanks for joining me here today and remember:

I see you.  I understand how hard you’re trying, and I’d like to help however I can.

Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you back here next week.