A few months ago, I send out an email asking my Keeping It Together Community what made them feel Overburdened.
I wanted to talk about one of the responses I got from that email on today’s episode.
I love hearing from people just like you. You all teach me so much. So, if you have something to share, don’t hold back. I wanna hear from you! You guys make this talking into a mic all by myself in my room upstairs not seems quite so weird!
I’m pretty sure the answer I got from this friend could be very similar to what I’d hear from most of us.
It’s another reassurance to me that we are more alike than different and that’s why we need each other so much.
Here’s what she said when I asked,” What makes you feel Overburdened?”
“I put so much on myself in thinking I have to do everything. Take care of the house, take care of my dad, take care of the pets, take care of the city, take care of the world, take care of the universe… I always seem to leave myself out of that – hmmmm.”
She said a few more things, but let’s start with this part.
Could feeling like we have to do everything right now be adding to our feeling of being overburdened?
Aaaa, yah, of course. But we do have a lot to do.
There is no denying that.
How can we still do all that we need to do and take away the burden?
My immediate response is, don’t try to do everything all at once.
Let’s bring the emotion down a bit when we think about what we have to do and try to focus a bit more into the areas we actually have some control over and try starting there.
That’s what I teach in my two programs, Camp Connection and especially in Uniquee Connection.
Defining what’s most important to us and building out from there.
Here’s what my listener went on to say:
“Honestly, something I learned from you helps me deal with this. That was using the UCM planner(as a side note, that’s the planner I teach about in the Uniquee Connection class) – first, the weekly planner and priorities list has helped me divide and conquer my tasks. Second, it shows me how much time I actually have to do things for myself. I complete this each Sunday and review the previous week to see if things went as planned.”
I love how she broke that down.
First. What has to be done THIS WEEK. Not everything in one day, at least stretch it out into a week. When you compare 168 hours to 24, it opens things up quite a bit and helps you feel like there is enough time. I think what my friend is saying is that when she takes everything she feels like she has to do and puts it in a WEEKLY plan vs getting it all done today, it just feels better. Can you see how that would help the stress levels go down?
Her second point was this, when she plans out the week and writes it down, it shows her, actually SHOWS her how much time there is still left for things she wants to do for herself.
That tricky mind of ours tries to make everything seem bigger than it is so that we don’t do too much. It wants us to stay in that comfort zone that we’ve built up for ourselves. When we take a real look at what’s going on, we bring things back into perspective where we can take a deep breath and figure it out.
I also like that she said that she makes time every Sunday to review what happened the week before and see if she wants to repeat or make changes. Nice one! Always look and see what’s working. If it works, why fix it, right?! Do it again!
The last part of her message was this:
“I also like the daily pages to help me both review and plan. I have been completing them each morning, but next month I am going to try doing them each evening for the coming day. I will let you know how that goes. “
My philosophy is this, when we plan by the week, and then live by the day, it just works.
I’m so happy to hear that this is working for her too.
Live your day today and enjoy it.
When we take the time to plan things out, we spend less time worrying about how we’re going to fit it all in. That just causes stress and makes us age faster and all that stuff we don’t want.
Do it every morning. Do it every evening. Whatever works for you.
Try both like my listener here did and do a test to see which you like better.
You guys…. I loved this discussion today.
I loved hearing from this community!!!
We get to be here for each other.
Share what we’re each doing and see if we’d like to try something new.
If you’d like to take either of my programs, they’ll be opening up again soon.
That’s where we can dive even deeper into systems and daily practices that help lift any kind of burden you face. They come up all around us but we don’t have to react with stress, we can learn how to ACT first!!! You get to be in control of how you feel by the choices you make. These two programs will help you feel in control of your life and that is the best way to feel overburdened NO MORE.
So, Join the waitlist for Camp Connection and Uniquee Connection in the links in the shownotes.
Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you back here next week!