077: Your Best Year Ever

What if your greatest frustrations from the previous year were actually pointing you to some of your biggest wins in the next? What if regret isn’t reminding us of what‘s impossible, but rather pointing us toward what is possible?

Today we’re reviewing our final Book Club book of the year:

We’ve been reading Your Best Year Ever by Michael Hyatt.

I always read this book as I’m setting up my goals for the next year. Since my birthday falls in November, I just recently did this. I thought I’d share with you some of the parts that stood out to me as I did my goal setting session.

If you set goals like I do, I think this book is a great way to get focused and help you not to get too excited and set a ton of goals, yet not be too easy on yourself and not set enough. It helps me to make a good balance.

At the very beginning of the book, there’s a story about a runner at the 2008 Indoor Track Championships.

As she was just about to make her move into first place during her final lap, she went down. Hard! And she found herself in the back of the pack.

This was such a great reminder of how we all find ourselves falling short of our goals.

It’s what we do AFTER we fall short that makes all the difference.

Do we stay in the game and keep trying and do we give up.

Before I start my goal setting for the next year, I do what the author suggests and do an After-Action Review of my previous year.

I write down what I thought went great, where I had trouble, where I started and where I am now.

Being really honest as I type out all my thoughts is really important. How stupid would it be to not be completely honest? We can’t know where we’re headed if we don’t know where we’re starting!

It’s really important to not focus on where you think you’ve failed. It’s time to rethink regret! Instead, think of it as a road sign pointing the way forward.

Did you know that less than 10% are successful at New Year’s Resolution goals?

If you’ve done more than 10% of your goals, you’re ahead of most people.

It’s not a competition but it is good to know!

I take the information from the After-Action Review that I did and start on my new goals.

Did you know that Health, Wealth, Relationships, & Personal Development are the most popular goals.

I like the areas of focus that are suggested in this book are:

-spiritual

-intellectual

-emotional

-physical

-marital

-parental

-social

-vocational

-avocational

-financial

These are all areas that I feel are important too, so I make goals in all of them. I don’t have each of them be a year long goal, some are only short term goals. Others are for the entire year.

You’ll find that this book helps you to create a good balance, so you’re not overwhelmed.

A quote I like from Michael Hyatt is; “You will never have more of what you want until you become thankful for what you have.”

This book does such a great job of walking you through 5 steps of goal setting.

I’m not going to go over all of it.

My purpose in doing a Book Club here on the podcast is to introduce you to some great books that I’ve read that have taken away my overburden, so I’ll just leave you with a few more of my take-a-ways.

As soon as you feel burden coming on…stop. Think about one thing that could be useful to you and do that one thing. No need to add more if it just makes you feel heavy.

Here are my last few take-a-ways from the book:

He lists the importance of writing down your goals:

Forces clarity

Overcomes resistance

Motivates you to action

Filters other opportunities

See and celebrate your progress

-For goals to matter, they have to stretch us. Get in the discomfort zone! Notice the fear that comes up and acknowledge that you are on your way to a breakthrough. Change from fear to excitement that you’re on the right path!!

-Know WHAT you want to do but more importantly, know WHY you want to do it.

Connect with your WHY intellectually and emotionally. Understand it and feel what’s at stake. Your motivation needs to come from your head and your heart.

-Peers matter when working towards goals. Positive energy is contagious. You’ll reach more goals together than alone.

-Planning becomes a very fancy way to procrastinate.

It’s easier to plan than to take action.

That’s why I have decided to cut my yearly planning session into a few days instead of a whole week. It was too long, so now, I limit myself so I don’t procrastinate by over planning!

I do plan out my action. Small steps planned into my day. Then I do what I say I’m going to do. I’m uncomfortable NOT doing it and I’m uncomfortable doing it, so I may as well make progress in the discomfort!!

-Your goal might be sacred, but your strategy isn’t. Don’t give up on your goal, just change your approach.

Journaling about your goals is a great way to stay on top of your progress.

Rejoice

Recommit

Revise

Remove

Replace

Don’t forget to celebrate. I forget this all the time. Trying to change that.

You only lose when you give up. Don’t give up!

-The Law of Diminishing Intent

The longer you wait to take action, the less likely you will be to take it.

Ok, so what happened to the runner from the beginning of the episode?

When Heahter Kampf hit the ground, she could have stayed down. It would have been easy to be discouraged and admit that the race was over. That’s what everyone expected her to do.

Here’s what she said about that moment, “The first thing I remember seeing after feeling like I was falling, was seeing my hands on the track when I was pushing off to go again. As I started to gain momentum, it was like a crescendo of noise and excitement.” To the amazement of the announcers and the crowd, she passed one runner and then the next and kept going until she took first place.

It’s such a powerful example to me of what can happen when we stay in the game and keep trying.

It doesn’t really even matter to me that she took first place.

To me, it was enough that she got back up and didn’t quit.

If you feel like you’ve fallen down.

If you feel like you’re at the rear of the pack.

Stop that thought!

Instead… consider what your next year may look like if you keep going.

Where will you be in a year if you stay in the game and keep trying?

Does it matter if you end up in first place?

What matters is that you don’t give up on yourself and keep moving forward.

I will always be here cheering you on!

What I feel called to keep moving forward with is helping you to learn to love yourself, find the connection with that person you have always been, and help you to make and keep commitments to yourself.

I have new openings for 2023 and I would love to have you in my coaching program.

In that program I teach you the Uniquee Connection Method that will help you identify your priorities, live the life you were meant to by connecting to those priorities and living each day in the way that you intentionally choose. I also guide you into how you can make deep connections with yourself so you can love and support yourself all along the way.

That’s my purpose and I want to help you connect with yours!

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Make this the year that you find your purpose and invest in your personal growth.

I want to be there for you as your mentor. Because:

I see you. I understand how hard you’re trying, and I’d like to help however I can.

Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you back here next week.

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