I’m excited to share this little technique with you today.
I’m also going to give you a simple tip that gives you the power to do it in less than 10 minutes.
That’s right, 10 minutes or less!
Oh my gosh! That totally just sounded like an infomercial
This is not going to be an infomercial!!
You might think that whatever happens in your day is completely out of your control or a lot of it is anyway.
Well, I’m here to tell you that’s simply not true
You have more control than you think and it’s easier than you think to be able to do it
I’ve decided to call this technique, or practice or whatever you want to call it, Looking Forward!
It sounds easy… because it is!
Most of us have heard of setting an intention and just in case you haven’t, setting an intention is basically deciding what YOU want to have happen.
It’s a pretty simple definition.
What I want to share with you today is taking a few minutes in the morning to go over not only what you have planned for the day but to also make a decision about how you want those things to go.
More important than deciding how you want it to go and what you’re going to do is deciding how you’re going to feel while you’re doing it.
You can even think about how you’re going to make the people around you feel.
How you’ll feel being with them.
It’s just thinking through the whole situation.
A lot of the people that I’ve shared this with had never even considered doing it before and now that they’ve started adding it to their morning routine, they’ve seen that it really does work.
It’s made some big changes in how things have gone for them in their lives.
Just the act of working through a situation BEFORE it happens can affect the outcome in so many ways.
Now, are you gonna become the queen of everything and nothing goes wrong once you start doing this?
No, of course not
That’s most likely not going to happen. I guess you never know until you try…
But you will find that the way you feel about the things that happen is where you’ll see the biggest changes happen.
I’ve shared the following example before with some of you and it’s just such a good example that
I think I’m going to share it again for those that didn’t hear and as a reminder for some of you that have already heard it.
Not too long ago my husband and two of my kids and I decided to go on a little weekend trip.
We wanted to try out those new electric bikes. Well, I don’t know how new they are but they were new to us.
Anyway, we decided we were going to take those electric bikes and we’re going to ride them through a State Park that was in the city we were visiting.
We’ve been to this state park many times
The morning before we went on this little trip, I did what I’m teaching you today.
I sat down in the morning and I thought through and wrote down what I was going to be doing that day.
I know that I get cold really easy and even though we were in a place where it’s supposed to be warmer I knew that the possibility would be that I would be cold.
So, I thought about what I would wear that would help me not to be cold.
I also thought about the fact that I did NOT want to be the complainer on this bike ride.
I decided that I was not going complain and I thought through that and situations that might cause me to complain and how I would stop myself from doing it.
I also thought about how it was important to me to spend time with each of my people one-on-one and have some time to talk with each one of them.
Mostly I just wanted to enjoy the day!
I love the beautiful scenery there!
I love the blue sky against the red rock!
I wanted to feel the warmth of the sun on my face!
I thought through each of those feelings I wanted to enjoy and made the decisions beforehand that I was going to experience them and how I could make them happen.
Now, when we got there and after we tried out the bikes and got feeling comfortable on how to use them, we rode them over to the entrance to the state park.
This is where the story I had created in my mind changed.
I had forgotten that this entrance to the state park was a very steep hill to get down into the park.
If you know anything about me there are two things that I’m terrified of…
I’m terrified of going fast
and I’m terrified of going down hills.
That’s why I don’t ski and here I find myself with both of my fears directly in front of me
Okay, Immediately, even though this wasn’t the situation that I had visualized in the morning, my mind thought back to how I had decided I was going to feel today.
I wasn’t going to complain
and I was going to enjoy my day with my family.
So, even though everybody took off really fast, I decided I was going to do it too.
I allowed myself to go at my own pace.
I didn’t care that I was slower than everyone else, and that allowed me not to complain.
and I did it!
I focused on the beautiful scenery
I focused on the warmth on my face!
Luckily the brakes didn’t burn out because I had squeezed them so hard!!
I made it and I was able to enjoy the rest of the day.
It was a beautiful day and
It was so much fun !!
I enjoyed the time with my kids and with my husband so very much and
I enjoyed being outside which is something I love!!
It was the exact break that I needed!
If I hadn’t have made the decisions I did beforehand about how i wanted to feel,
I may have reverted back to an old pattern which was to chicken out or complain the whole time and ruin the day for everyone, not just myself AND
I would have missed out on the whole thing!
But I didn’t and now I have a wonderful memory of that day with my family.
So, how do YOU start using this really powerful practice?
What do you need?
All you really need is your brain.
You just need to think through how you want to have things happen, before they happen. You have to take a minute and LOOK FORWARD.
You can take it up a notch by writing it down.
I believe that when you write things down they become more solidified
They become more real
I write it down in a specific place.
I’ve designed a planner that has a specific place to write it so I’ve got my intentions right there with me during my day.
Every single morning i write them down in my travelers notebook.
I LOOK FORWARD to what I’m going to do that day.
When I go through each activity of my day I’ve already increased my chances of having a better day.
Are you ready to try it?
Are you ready to commit to just 10 minutes or less each day?
(I hope you answered yes to both questions!)
If you’d like to use the planner that I designed
you’re welcome to purchase the Connection Planner in my
I’ll leave you a link in the show notes but honestly, you don’t need it.
I don’t want you to think that you have to have it.
I’ll admit, it is nice and it reminds me to do it every day but you don’t need it.
All you need is a piece of paper and a pen.
Just take a minute, sit down and think through the activities and the events of your day.
Think about who you’re going to be with and think about what you want to have happen and how you want to feel while you’re experiencing it.
Try it for a day or two.
See how it works and then send me an email!
I’d really like to hear about your experience with this simple little practice.
You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I just want to hear how it goes
I’d really be interested to hear.
Get the Connection Planner HERE.