Hello! And welcome to another episode of Overburdened No More. I’m Marla Beech and I am the host of this podcast. I’m so glad that you’re here with me today. I love sharing quick little tips with you of how I remove burden as a feeling in my life and how others I know do too. I know I’m learning more every day and I hope that something I share here helps you to feel lighter and more ready to take on whatever comes your way today.
Today’s episode is a little reminder about the Book Club book for the second quarter of 2022.
Did you remember that we’re reading, Soundtracks by Jon Acuff?
If not, I’m glad you’re here today so I can plant a little bug in your ear to read it.
I wouldn’t have chosen it if it hadn’t made a major impact on me.
It is such a fun read and uplifting at the same time, and an easy book to want to finish.
Made me want to look at life in a different way.
I would think that most of us are overthinkers, some of us more than others.
Me…. I’ve been one as long as I can remember, until I started shinning a spotlight on it while reading this book.
Once I realized what I was doing and how bad it was for me, I’ve started to be able to do something about it.
The author defines overthinking this way,
“Overthinking is when what you think gets in the way of what you want.”
There are so many wonderful things to be thinking about without overthinking the things that have already happened. Things you can no longer do anything about. Or overthinking what is going to happen, because all that does is cause worry over something that doesn’t exist.
Did you know that depression and anxiety can be results of overthinking? Not in every case of course, but I think it’s worth evaluating if this could be the cause of some of those feelings you experience.
A positive soundtrack that you run in your mind should inspire and motivate you.
A negative soundtrack does the opposite. It cripples and paralyzes.
So why do we allow our brains to run over and over things that hurt us?
One of the most intriguing parts of Soundtracks for me was in the first chapter when Jon describes some studies about how the brain works and why it’s so easy to stay in a negative soundtrack spiral.
One of the quotes I shared with you in Episode 41 when I introduced the book was,
-“One of the greatest mistakes you can make in life is assuming all your thoughts are true.”
I have made that mistake.
I probably made that mistake just today.
I more than likely make that mistake every day.
When all we do is listen to our thoughts, we definitely accept them as fact.
By reading this book, and through other things I’ve been learning about, I have had my eyes opened!
Our thoughts aren’t facts!!!
WE actually have control over what we think and what we choose to believe about the thoughts that are constantly coming into our minds.
I love feeling like I have control over that.
Now, when I hear something negative in my thoughts, I know that I can question it. I
t’s unfortunate, but the majority of our overthinking seems to be negative.
I don’t need negativity in my life.
In our book club book, the author has 3 questions that he wants us to use when a thought comes into our mind.
1. Is it true?
2. Is it helpful?
3. Is it kind?
I mean, come on!!! How much pain could we save ourselves from if we just stopped for a minute and ran our thoughts through those 3 questions!
I know that I would have had so much more peace in my life if I would have just questioned my thoughts in these 3 ways.
Usually only one of those questions would have knocked me back to my senses and helped me realize that what I was saying to myself wasn’t true, helpful, or kind.
I like that this book points out that even though we think the solution to overthinking is to stop thinking, it actually isn’t.
Thinking is a very powerful tool that we need.
We just need to not let it go towards the easier way of negativity.
We can teach it a better way.
That’s what this book is all about.
Reteaching our brains to run POSITIVE soundtracks instead of negative ones.
Our brains are constantly rebuilding, just like every other organ and cell in our body.
Which means, we have the power to rebuild it how we choose.
This is an amazing way to change the way we look at what burdens us.
You can choose to believe that our burdens are building you instead of tearing you down.
Is it easy?…NOPE.
Nothing that is this important is easy.
But what I know to be true is that it’s possible.
By changing the way we talk to ourselves, we can change our results.
Because your thoughts create your actions, and your actions give you your results, changing to more positive soundtracks bring about more positive results.
That gets me so excited!!!
I’m going to be paying even closer attention to my thoughts and not let them boss me around.
I don’t like being bossed around.
I know what I want in this life and I am going to choose my thoughts so that they affect my actions to get the results that I want.
I’ve also got to put a little plug in for the way I believe is the fastest way to change what we are thinking.
When you are asking yourself the 3 questions of
Is it true?
Is it helpful?
Is it kind?
Do it while you are journaling. Really dive in deep into those questions. I promise, that writing, instead of thinking about what you said to yourself, will help you seen the truth faster.
I’ve included a link to my journaling jumpstart guide that can help you practice journaling when you’re not writing about a specific thought.
I felt it would be a helpful addition to our conversation today.
There’s a little hype today to get you excited to read our Book Club book for the quarter.
Don’t forget, it’s Soundtracks by Jon Acuff.
I know that you are going to love it!
Before our book club review that last week of June, I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts about the book and what it has helped you to do.
Send those to firstname.lastname@example.org . I love getting your emails!
You know what else I love?
I love it when you send me voice memos on Instagram.
Just click on hunkeedori (it’s in bold under a post), click the message button and hold down the microphone icon and start talking! It’s way easier that typing out a message on that little keyboard.
There is something so amazing about hearing each other’s voices.
Give it a try.
I promise, I’ll send one back to you. It’ll be fun!
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