.034: Benefits of Rejection: Shifting Perspective

I wanted to tell you a story today because it’s actually come up a few times in the past week so I’ll take that as a sign that I need to share it.

I hope you’ll find an application for it in your own circumstances.

In Episode 13, The Hunkeedori Story, I mentioned the job I got that helped me earn the money I needed to start my own business.  What I didn’t tell you was the back story of how I was first rejected when I applied for that job.  Did I just ruin the story by telling you the ending??

When I decided that I wanted to start working again and that I needed the job I got to be one I could do at home, I began looking for a sewing job.

 I don’t even remember where I found it but it was for sewing pillow covers for a lady who owned an Etsy shop. 

I could pick up the fabric at her home each week and return the completed pillowcases and exchange them for the next group.

 I was really confident in my sewing abilities since I’d been doing alterations professionally for 25 years at that point and sewing zippers into a square piece of fabric was pretty easy for me. 

I got an interview and took in a few pieces of clothing and a quilt that I had made to show her what I could do.  I got along with the young lady really well and was pretty confident that I would get the job.  She told me she’d let me know soon.

I was shocked a few days later when I got an email stating that she had decided to go with someone else.

Like, really shocked!

 I let myself get pretty down about it. 

I had been trying to make improvements in my life and it was feeling like no matter what I tried, I just couldn’t get things going. 

Why couldn’t I just get a simple job that I knew that I was well qualified for? 

I remember how horrible I felt about myself.  I shamed myself into believing that I had been too cawky and proud about my abilities.  That only made me feel worse. 

About a month later, I was on a walk with a good friend when we got to talking about the job I had been turned down for.  I told her how awful I felt about myself for not getting it and wondered what I was supposed to do next.  I’ll never forget the look on her face when she told me she had a story to share that would change my perspective on why I didn’t get that job.

So of course, I listened.

She began to tell me about a friend of hers.  Her friend had just been telling her about how grateful she was for a job her mom just found. 

Her mom is a widow and has an adult child living with her that has disabilities so severe that she has to be with her all the time, so working outside of the home is out of the question. 

Luckily, her home is paid for but she needed to find a job that would pay for the insurance coverage she needed for their medical expenses.  She had been searching for months for a job that would work for their circumstances with no luck.

My friend’s friend was overcome with gratitude about a job her mom had just gotten. 

They had had a large family fast and prayer just the Sunday before, hoping that their mom could find that specific of a job. 

I’m sure you can guess where this is going. 

Her mom was the one that got the job I had applied for sewing pillowcases.  It allowed her the flexibility in the job she needed so she could care for her child and make the money she needed. 

In 5 minutes, my whole perspective changed about my circumstances.

I no longer felt bad for myself that I didn’t get that job.  In fact, I was so grateful that I didn’t.

I was so grateful that that other lady, who needed it for so many more reasons than I did, got it.

I was grateful for the faith of her family combining to help influence the decision of the shop owner.

So, I ask you today, how can a small shift in your perspective change the way you feel?

Who could you give the benefit of the doubt to?

Could you take some shame away from judging yourself and turn it into a belief that the right thing is going to happen?

When we allow a different thought to replace the one that is adding the feelings of being overburdened, it doesn’t feel so heavy anymore, does it?

I hope that this little story helps you in some way today.

I know it’s helped me when something happens that I just don’t see a reason for.

I think about this story often.

Do you have a story similar to mine?

One that shifted your perspective and helped you to move forward?

I’d love to hear it!

Send me an email at marla@hunkeedori.com.

I’m looking for friends like you who can help me uplift others on this podcast.

We could have a little chat and share it on the podcast if you’d be comfortable with that or I could just share it for you. 

I think it would be amazing either way.

What better way to become overburdened no more than by sharing our stories!!

I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

Have a wonderful day!!

.034: Benefits of Rejection: Shifting Perspective
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