All of us battle unseen fears that hold us back. And what makes them even scarier, or hold us tighter in their grip, is when we don’t acknowledge them.
What Are You Afraid of?
Duh! They’re hairy and unpredictable.
Slimy. Ain’t nobody who wants to touch that! Ok, I do know people who do, but I will never, ever understand that.
That one is out of my control. I go to high places, even ferris wheels and repelling people, and it just doesn’t go away.
Be Honest With Yourself
Those are three of mine. Have you thought about what scares you???
So, those three may be physical things that are easy to explain, but I have plenty more.
I don’t think you want to hear about all the silent battles I face, pretty much every day. But I don’t mind sharing them.
I’m not ashamed.
Why? Because I think all of us battle unseen fears that hold us back. And what makes them even scarier, or hold us tighter in their grip, is when we don’t acknowledge them.
Speak Your Fear
Sometimes just saying your fear out loud makes them hold a little less tightly.
Does it matter if you say it to someone else, or just to yourself? I don’t think so.
I even write mine down when I journal. That’s putting it out there for only my eyes.
I’ll Tell You Mine, If You’ll Tell (Yourself) Me Yours
- I’m afraid of being too silly in front of people and they’ll loose respect for me.
- I’m afraid if I share my opinion I may loose friends.
- I’m afraid if I go for a dream, people will think I’m foolish.
- I’m afraid that people will see where I’m weak.
Perhaps they do, or even if they don’t, they may spark some recognition for yours.
If I was writing in my journal, and those of you who follow me regularly know that is a big part of how I work through things, the conversation in my journal may go something like this:
If I’m truly myself, and my silliness comes out, those who already love and respect me aren’t going to change just because I act crazy now and again. They’ll already know that that’s a part of who I am. I only want people who know the real me. Besides, as Rachel Hollis puts it, “Other people’s opinion of me are none of my business.”
My opinions are just that, opinions. I enjoy spending time with people who may have different opinions than mine and know how to have a discussion about them without it being a friendship breaker. I want friends like that. I am worthy of attracting friends that challenge me and validate me at the same time. I’m not going to worry about that. I’m going to be me!!
My dreams are very dear to me. I spend a lot of time thinking and praying about them and working towards them. The way other people react to them really have nothing to do with me. If I feel compelled to do something, I believe it’s my “sign” that it’s what I’m supposed to do. I am not going to hold back just to make other people more comfortable. I’m also not a beast. I do care about other people’s feelings. I will still be aware of how I share. I will be respectful of other’s opinions, just like I want them to be of mine.
It’s taken a long time for me to learn this, but a weakness is just an opportunity for growth. The more I share my weaknesses with others, the more I realize that I’m not alone. EVERYONE has weaknesses. There’s a lot of people who are master of hiding them, but that doesn’t make it not true. The more I share, the less hold that weakness has over me. The more I share, the less it feels scary to share.
In truth, these would be a lot longer and more specific in my own journal.
Heck, I’m not going to put “everything” out there!
Now It’s Your Turn.
What things scare you?
Take the time to sit down and share those fears with yourself. Or, talk with someone that you have a connection with. Someone who will listen and validate you as you share.
Oh, it’s so good to get it out! I promise, you will feel less and less afraid the more you acknowledge your fears. Except for the ferris wheels!!
Poke that snake in the eye my friend!!